In our series of articles about mental distortions and mind errors, we analyze the strangest thought patterns that compel human beings to make mistakes.
At the end of the day, no one could deny that our mind is mingled with mistakes and thoughts that may not be entirely logical or true.
Our emotions often cloud our judgement and our sense of moral obligations drive us to see something in a different light compared to those who are around us.
In today’s post, we are going to talk about falsehoods that our mind convinces us to see as the unbridled truth.
One of the first and most important of these fallacies is about fate and control, and it manifests itself in two different ways; thinking that we have absolute control over our lives and what happens to us, or thinking that we are all victims of a predetermined fate.
These are both erroneous and dangerous ways of thinking. No one is in full control of everything that happens to them, and if they think they are, they will start to blame themselves for literally everything that happens.
The same could be said about a person who has totally at the mercy of a so called ‘fate’ and believes that he is not in control of his life at all.
Even in extremely dire situations, we always have a bit of control and can steer our life in a certain direction.
Another significant fallacy of the mind is our yearning for change in people who are closest to us. We start to think that if we put pressure on people or encourage them enough, or even inspire them to the point of excitement, we can change who they are and how they behave.
While it is always good to encourage other people to change their path and take responsibility for their shortcomings, you should not raise your expectations and think that your happiness or contentment solely relies on them changing and becoming better people.
This is a dangerous fallacy, especially if you are an entrepreneur and have an inadvertent influence on the people close to you.
Another fallacy is what most optimist people might have to deal with at some point in their lives. The fallacy compels your mind to think that the world is fair, and if we work hard enough, we will be rewarded justly.
While that is an admirable thought, it is not a logical assessment of how the world works.
When we are faced with the evidence or proof that life is not fair and our hard and honest work has not been rewarded, we might become depressed or frustrated with the way we are living our life.
This is to believe that the world is absolutely fair, while nothing is ever truly absolute. The world is indeed fair, but to some degree, and one cannot deny the wrongdoings that happen around us all the time.
Fallacy happens when our sentiments take over our logic and force us to think in a way that undermines facts and universal truths.
In order to avert the effects of fallacious and erroneous thinking, we must first detect these fallacies and think about how we may all be victims of its cruel grasp.
If you have ever found yourself thinking in such ways, try to think again with mindfulness and find the fault in your own illogical assessments.
This is the only path to a clearer mindset and way of thinking!
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